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Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
仇人與恩人
大學剛畢業的時候，某電視公司請我去主持個特別節目，
那節目的導播看我文章不錯，又要我兼編劇。
可是當節目做完，領酬勞的時候，
導播不但不給我編劇費，
還扣我一半的主持費。
他把收據交給我說：
『你簽收一千六，但我只能給你八百，因為節目透支了。』
我當時沒吭聲，照簽了，心想 【君子報仇，十年不晚。】
後來那導播又找我，我還 【照樣】幫他做了幾次。
最後一次，他沒扣我錢，變得對我很客氣，
因為那時我被電視公司的新聞部看上，
一下子成為了電視記者兼新聞主播。
我們後來常在公司遇到，他每次笑得都有點尷尬。
我曾經想去告他一狀，可是正如高中那位同學所說，
沒有他我能有今天嗎？
如果我當初不忍下一口氣，又能繼續獲得主持的機會嗎？
機會是他給的，他是我的貴人，他已經知錯，我何必去報復呢？
後來我到了美國留學。
有一天，一位已經就業的同學對我抱怨他的美國老闆 【吃】他，
不但給他很少的薪水，而且故意拖延他的綠卡 （美國居留權）申請。
我當時對他說： 『這麼壞的老闆，不做也罷。但你豈能白幹了這麼久，
總要多學一點，再跳槽，所以你要偷偷學。』
他聽了我的話，不但每天加班，留下來背那些商業文書的寫法。
甚至連怎麼修理影印機，都跟在工人旁邊記筆記，
以便有一天自己出去創業，能夠省點修理費。
隔了半年，我問他是不是打算跳槽了？
他居然一笑： 『不用！我的老闆現在對我刮目相看，又升官，又加薪，
而且綠卡也馬上下來了，老闆還問我為什麼態度一百八十度轉變，
變得那麼積極呢？』
他心裏的不平不見了，他作了 『報復』 ，只是換了一種方法，
而且他自我檢討，當年其實是他自己不努力。
大概前五年吧！
我遇到個有意思的事。
一位老友突然猛學算命，由生辰八字、紫薇斗數、姓名學到占星術，
沒一樣不研究。
他學算命，當然不是覺得算命靈驗，而是想證明算命是騙人的東西。
原因是有一位非常著名的大師為他算命，算他活不到四十七，
他發誓，非打爛那大師的招牌不可。
你猜怎樣？
他愈學愈怕，因為他發現自己算自己，也確實活不長。
這時候，他改了，他跑去做慈善，說：
『反正活不久了，好好運用剩下的歲月，做點有意義的事。』
他很積極地投入，人人都說他變了，
由一個焦躁勢利的小人，變成敦厚慈愛的君子。
不知不覺，他過了四十七、過了四十八，而今已經五十三，
紅光滿面、生氣勃勃，比誰都活利健康。
「你可以去砸那大師的招牌了！」 我有一天開他玩笑。
他眼一亮，回問我： 『為什麼？』
又笑笑： 『要不是那人警告我，照我以前的個性，
確實四十七歲非犯心臟病不可，他沒有不準啊！』
各位年輕朋友！
你喜歡逞強鬥狠嗎？
你總是心有不平嗎？
你有 【此仇不報非君子】的憤恨嗎？
一點心得
你要知道， 【敵人、仇人】...
都可以 【激發】你的 【潛能】，成為你的【貴人】。
你也要知道，許多怨仇、不平，其實問題都出在你自己。
你更要知道，這世間最好的 『報復』，就是運用那股不平之氣，
使自己邁向成功，以那成功和 【成功之後的胸懷】，
對待你當年的敵人，且把敵人變成朋友。
當 『冤冤相報何時了』的 【雙贏】 ，
能成為 【相逢一笑泯恩仇】的 【雙贏】 。
不是人生最大的成功嗎？
是不是：如果你是正確的，你的世界就是正確的？
那節目的導播看我文章不錯，又要我兼編劇。
可是當節目做完，領酬勞的時候，
導播不但不給我編劇費，
還扣我一半的主持費。
他把收據交給我說：
『你簽收一千六，但我只能給你八百，因為節目透支了。』
我當時沒吭聲，照簽了，心想 【君子報仇，十年不晚。】
後來那導播又找我，我還 【照樣】幫他做了幾次。
最後一次，他沒扣我錢，變得對我很客氣，
因為那時我被電視公司的新聞部看上，
一下子成為了電視記者兼新聞主播。
我們後來常在公司遇到，他每次笑得都有點尷尬。
我曾經想去告他一狀，可是正如高中那位同學所說，
沒有他我能有今天嗎？
如果我當初不忍下一口氣，又能繼續獲得主持的機會嗎？
機會是他給的，他是我的貴人，他已經知錯，我何必去報復呢？
後來我到了美國留學。
有一天，一位已經就業的同學對我抱怨他的美國老闆 【吃】他，
不但給他很少的薪水，而且故意拖延他的綠卡 （美國居留權）申請。
我當時對他說： 『這麼壞的老闆，不做也罷。但你豈能白幹了這麼久，
總要多學一點，再跳槽，所以你要偷偷學。』
他聽了我的話，不但每天加班，留下來背那些商業文書的寫法。
甚至連怎麼修理影印機，都跟在工人旁邊記筆記，
以便有一天自己出去創業，能夠省點修理費。
隔了半年，我問他是不是打算跳槽了？
他居然一笑： 『不用！我的老闆現在對我刮目相看，又升官，又加薪，
而且綠卡也馬上下來了，老闆還問我為什麼態度一百八十度轉變，
變得那麼積極呢？』
他心裏的不平不見了，他作了 『報復』 ，只是換了一種方法，
而且他自我檢討，當年其實是他自己不努力。
大概前五年吧！
我遇到個有意思的事。
一位老友突然猛學算命，由生辰八字、紫薇斗數、姓名學到占星術，
沒一樣不研究。
他學算命，當然不是覺得算命靈驗，而是想證明算命是騙人的東西。
原因是有一位非常著名的大師為他算命，算他活不到四十七，
他發誓，非打爛那大師的招牌不可。
你猜怎樣？
他愈學愈怕，因為他發現自己算自己，也確實活不長。
這時候，他改了，他跑去做慈善，說：
『反正活不久了，好好運用剩下的歲月，做點有意義的事。』
他很積極地投入，人人都說他變了，
由一個焦躁勢利的小人，變成敦厚慈愛的君子。
不知不覺，他過了四十七、過了四十八，而今已經五十三，
紅光滿面、生氣勃勃，比誰都活利健康。
「你可以去砸那大師的招牌了！」 我有一天開他玩笑。
他眼一亮，回問我： 『為什麼？』
又笑笑： 『要不是那人警告我，照我以前的個性，
確實四十七歲非犯心臟病不可，他沒有不準啊！』
各位年輕朋友！
你喜歡逞強鬥狠嗎？
你總是心有不平嗎？
你有 【此仇不報非君子】的憤恨嗎？
一點心得
你要知道， 【敵人、仇人】...
都可以 【激發】你的 【潛能】，成為你的【貴人】。
你也要知道，許多怨仇、不平，其實問題都出在你自己。
你更要知道，這世間最好的 『報復』，就是運用那股不平之氣，
使自己邁向成功，以那成功和 【成功之後的胸懷】，
對待你當年的敵人，且把敵人變成朋友。
當 『冤冤相報何時了』的 【雙贏】 ，
能成為 【相逢一笑泯恩仇】的 【雙贏】 。
不是人生最大的成功嗎？
是不是：如果你是正確的，你的世界就是正確的？
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Contentment
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking 2
jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is.
I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his
life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2
daughters and the many bills of a household.
He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India that
happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India
after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop
off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the
mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child
haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child's hand been infected?? No, it was done for two simple words- - -TO BEG!
The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so
that the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating
half-way. And almost instantly, a flock 5 or 6 children swamped towards
this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from
one another. The natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the
nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of
bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumbfounded but willingly
sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of
bread (this is less than $0.25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get
daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed
the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few
adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first
time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a
loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be
able to have a complete body, have a job! , have a family, have the chance
to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be
clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are
deprived of...
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad?
Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... What about you? Maybe the
next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to
beg on the streets.
"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have."
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that! we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is.
I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his
life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2
daughters and the many bills of a household.
He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India that
happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India
after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop
off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the
mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child
haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child's hand been infected?? No, it was done for two simple words- - -TO BEG!
The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so
that the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating
half-way. And almost instantly, a flock 5 or 6 children swamped towards
this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from
one another. The natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the
nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of
bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumbfounded but willingly
sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of
bread (this is less than $0.25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get
daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed
the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few
adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first
time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a
loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be
able to have a complete body, have a job! , have a family, have the chance
to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be
clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are
deprived of...
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad?
Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... What about you? Maybe the
next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to
beg on the streets.
"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have."
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that! we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Saturday, April 12, 2008
SCJP Cert
我的 SCJP Cert 到手了。
信封上註明從 Sweden 寄出。
裏面有兩封祝賀信，一封由Sun CEO，
一封由 Sun Certification Manager 所寫。
初此之外，還附有一張名片大小的Sun Certified Professional
識別卡與一枚衣領別針。 :)
同事說不值這個價錢。哈~
當然，不是所有的東西都可以用錢來衡量的。 =Þ
在考慮著，是否要轉行！？
有此經驗的友人，從初期的進退兩難，想要回頭到如今的如魚得水。
驗證了這就是適應力與成長的洗禮。
只要堅持，終究還是會過去的。:)
信封上註明從 Sweden 寄出。
裏面有兩封祝賀信，一封由Sun CEO，
一封由 Sun Certification Manager 所寫。
初此之外，還附有一張名片大小的Sun Certified Professional
識別卡與一枚衣領別針。 :)
同事說不值這個價錢。哈~
當然，不是所有的東西都可以用錢來衡量的。 =Þ
在考慮著，是否要轉行！？
有此經驗的友人，從初期的進退兩難，想要回頭到如今的如魚得水。
驗證了這就是適應力與成長的洗禮。
只要堅持，終究還是會過去的。:)
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Monday, April 07, 2008
Please Hold My Hand
Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.
So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...
Saturday, April 05, 2008
一切都该告了一个段落
我的已过廿十多年的丰田轿车在某年的十二月被偷了。
接下来的三月，堂哥的四轮驱动丰田轿车也不见了。
今年的三月八日，父亲与女友停泊在门前的车被罗里连环撞。
接下来的三月廿十七日，哥哥停泊在门前的车也无端端被撞。
原本的计划被打乱，投资了一点时间，
从中上了几堂课，也没什么损失的。
我想，或许磁场太强了~
当有什么不好的事情发生时，最好生人唔近，自求多福。
发生好康的事情，记得贴紧一点。;)
接下来的三月，堂哥的四轮驱动丰田轿车也不见了。
今年的三月八日，父亲与女友停泊在门前的车被罗里连环撞。
接下来的三月廿十七日，哥哥停泊在门前的车也无端端被撞。
原本的计划被打乱，投资了一点时间，
从中上了几堂课，也没什么损失的。
我想，或许磁场太强了~
当有什么不好的事情发生时，最好生人唔近，自求多福。
发生好康的事情，记得贴紧一点。;)
Friday, April 04, 2008
Gold Wrapping Paper
The story goes that some time ago a mother punished her five year old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and she became even more upset when the child used the gold paper to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.
Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and then said, "This is for you, Momma."
The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she opened the box and found it was empty. She spoke to her daughter in a harsh manner.
"Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?"
She had tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Momma, it's not empty! I blew kisses into it until it was full."
The mother was crushed. She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged her forgiveness for her thoughtless anger.
An accident took the life of the child only a short time later, and it is told that the mother kept that gold box by her bed for all the years of her life.
Whenever she was discouraged or faced difficult problems she would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.
In a very real sense, each of us, as human beings, have been given a Golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and GOD. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and then said, "This is for you, Momma."
The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she opened the box and found it was empty. She spoke to her daughter in a harsh manner.
"Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?"
She had tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Momma, it's not empty! I blew kisses into it until it was full."
The mother was crushed. She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged her forgiveness for her thoughtless anger.
An accident took the life of the child only a short time later, and it is told that the mother kept that gold box by her bed for all the years of her life.
Whenever she was discouraged or faced difficult problems she would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.
In a very real sense, each of us, as human beings, have been given a Golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and GOD. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
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